blue enigma said:
Agreed, and I never completely understood the reasoning behind it. Al told Sam in the very first episode that this was a rule, that he couldn't answer any of Sam's questions about himself that he couldn't remember on his own, but it's not really clear why, especially since once Sam and Al switched places in this episode, Sam was filling in tons of stuff for Al that he'd forgotten. Obviously Sam didn't consider it an issue, and he has the last word on this since it's his project.
Donna's reason is specified. It was her belief that Sam would be unable to fulfill certain leaps with the knowledge that he was married.
Based on the fact that Sam had taken his chances in the accelerator in the first place knowing that he was gambling more than just his own fate this illustrates that she was in denial/romanticizing him, that she'd deluded herself into believing that he was leaping merely as an obligation. She didn't understand or just didn't accept his passion for it.
One thing I appreciate about the novels is that they characterize her a lot more convincingly and genuinely.
Although we don't know what their marriage was like prior to his leaping it's still suggested minutely that Sam was never fully invested in it despite that he did love her.
He didn't seem to ever take his marital status into account when he'd find himself attracted to the women in his leaps. He's periodically inquired about certain details of his life with Al; his name, his brother, what he was like in college but never once did he inquire about his marital status and/or if his attempt on his marriage to Donna was successful (he almost has to remember it sometimes because he's stated a few times that he's able to remember a certain past leap and references to the simul-leap suggest that they can come and go).
This suggests that even if it's subconsciously, either he can compartmentalize his potential marriage from his leaping or his own marital status doesn't present an obstacle in his success and it's Scott's belief that as long as Sam was aware that Donna understood the nature of his actions within leaps his capability would not be compromised.
In 'Mirror Image', it could be argued that Sam's blood was
not thicker than water, that he, while unable to factor in Donna still chose leaping over his family; his mother, sister, by his own doing his brother and their children (even if the existence of their children are only a presumption). Point being that I'm not convinced that Sam's being aware of Donna would have changed his decision.
I must say that in 'Star Crossed' I never understood how Al justified his apparent implication that it wasn't valid for Sam to override his own rules and wholeheartedly agree that no one had any right to withhold knowledge of his marriage from him. That's a significant piece of his identity.
Al is entitled to slight leniency, however because it wasn't entirely his call. He was stuck between whether to honor his best friend's need/right to be reminded of his life and his best friend's wife's request that he not be (it's similar to the dilemma of seeing your best friend's spouse cheating on them and having to puzzle out whether or not it's your place to tell them) and considering his tendency to be reluctant to reveal certain details to spare Sam's emotions (i.e Tom in 'Disco Inferno'), Donna's request is logically more sensible because it regards both.
If you really think about it, it would also be cruel to impose that guilt on him and though some fans might call that karma and find it deserved, Al would never do that.
That being said I believe Sam's marriage was absolutely need-to-know in '(Trilogy Part II) One Little Heart' when Al listened in disbelief as Sam described having very intimate desires for another woman establishing that he could tell a line was being crossed. Yet he said nothing! How?! Especially in this case because Al had betrayed both Sam and Donna by basically allowing him to be unfaithful. I'm able to forgive this only because Deborah Pratt discredited Donna to justify Abigail and it's completely plausible to argue that Sam rubber banded her which many including myself would consider a service to her.
As well as in 'Catch a Falling Star' when Sam, in a very personal manner, falls for Nicole (On a side note, because of this I don't buy Donna's claim that Sam never did anything that hurt her, if she wasn't hurt by Nicole or could get passed it that easily then the extent of her denial is almost insane).
TheLeaper said:
One thing I fed really weakens this episode was no acknowledgment whatsoever that Sam was married to Donna because of Sam's actions during a leap. If one has seen this before any season 1 episodes, you'd get the impression he was married the entire time.
That information is there, anyone who watched 'Star Crossed' first knows that, ergo it's not their problem if viewers chose to watch 'The Leap Back' first.
Now it would have been interesting to get Donna's perspective on that but they already did a poor job with her in their allotted 45 minutes and considering that her's and Sam's marriage remained completely undeveloped following 'Star Crossed' as opposed to Al's and Beth's then the fact that she was among the reasons Deborah Pratt was unhappy with 'The Leap Back' there was clearly not enough interest in her character to be real thoughtful with it.
The novel 'Mirror's Edge' has a fanfictional suggestion of how Donna's response to 'Star Crossed' if you are interested.